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The “Survivor” Contestant Who Outed His Co-Star As Trans Says “If He Wants To Shoot Me, I'll Hand Him The Gun”

On Wednesday night’s episode of Survivor: Game Changers, contestant Jeff Varner outed Zeke Smith as transgender as he attempted to prevent his elimination. “There is deception here. Deceptions on levels,” Varner said before turning to Smith and posing, “Why haven’t you told anyone that you’re transgender?”

“It’s a horrible thing to do to another human being,” Varner told BuzzFeed News Thursday morning. “When you out someone, you marginalize them, you stigmatize them, you shame them, you push them into the shadows, you force them to not be their authentic self. You don’t allow them to fit in and that’s a horrific place to be. I honestly believe that outing someone is assault — if you look at an assault victim, the scars they carry their whole life are very similar to this. I am profoundly sorry and I wish that there’s something I could do to make it right.”

During the episode, Varner’s question was first met with shock and then quickly derision from his fellow contestants. Soon enough, the show’s audience on social media echoed their sentiments. “Never been more disgusted by a Survivor castaway than Jeff Varner at last night’s tribal. Totally reprehensible,” tweeted Michelle Jones. “Varner saying ‘I advocate for the rights of trans people’ is like making a racist joke and saying, ‘my best friend is black!’ wrote Katie Bruce. Even the show’s usually neutral host, Jeff Probst, let it be known that Varner, who said he’s mostly avoided social media since the episode aired, crossed the line. “I cannot imagine anyone thinking what was done to Zeke was okay on any level, under any circumstances,” he told Entertainment Weekly.

After he asked the question, Varner immediately — and aggressively — tried to walk back on what he did, saying he wasn’t trying to imply Smith was a deceptive person because of his decision to not come out as trans on the show. Varner told BuzzFeed News he was operating under the belief that Smith had come out during his introductory season of Survivor, which aired while they were filming Game Changers. “I completely misjudged it. It was a massive mistake,” Varner said of that assumption. “I will never make an excuse for what happened, I will never defend my actions. It was absolutely the wrong thing to do.”

Before Varner was voted off, he hugged Smith, and he also said they’ve spoken since filming ended. “He’s been nothing but gracious and forgiving,” Varner said. “He said he saw me as much of a victim as him.” But in a column Smith wrote for The Hollywood Reporter, he described the outing as malicious: “In calling me deceptive, Varner invoked one of the most odious stereotypes of transgender people, a stereotype that is often used as an excuse for violence and even murder. In proclaiming ‘Zeke is not the guy you think he is’ and that ‘there is deception on levels y’all don’t understand,’ Varner is saying that I’m not really a man and that simply living as my authentic self is a nefarious trick. In reality, by being Zeke the dude, I am being my most honest self — as is every other transgender person going about their daily lives.”

When presented with Smiths’s words, Varner replied: “That’s unfortunate … I’m not sure who got in his ear and why it’s headed that way, but none of that matters because at the end of the day, Zeke has ever right to react however he needs to react. I give him all the space in the world to do that. If he wants to shoot me, I’ll hand him the gun. I deserve this.”

CBS’s decision to air Smith’s outing is one some have questioned. In a statement, GLAAD said its “Transgender Media Program worked with Zeke Smith and CBS for several months to ensure that when the episode aired Zeke would have the opportunity to speak for himself about his experience.”

Given he’s still on Survivor: Game Changers, Smith wasn’t available for interviews, but he did appear on CBS’ The Talk on Thursday. “In the aftermath of being outed, I’ve been granted unprecedented autonomy in how I wanted to tell my story,” Smith said. “We started having conversations … nine months ago about the care with which this episode was going to be handled. I wanted the world to see how much I’d grown and I also thought by showing what happened, maybe it wouldn’t happen to somebody else and something good could come of it.”





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Billie Lourd Dressed As Princess Leia And Gave A Powerful Speech In Memory Of Her Mom

1. The Star Wars 40th Anniversary Celebration kicked off Thursday morning in Orlando, and the first panel was truly epic. Harrison Ford (Han Solo) surprised fans, alongside Mark Hamill (Luke Skywalker) and director George Lucas.

2. And Hayden Christensen (Anakin Skywalker) shared that he accidentally made lightsaber noises with his mouth during filming.

3. But the most touching part of the panel was dedicated to the late Carrie Fisher, who played Princess Leia throughout the franchise.

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Fisher died in December 2016, and her mother, actor Debbie Reynolds, died the next day.

4. “She could hold her own against anything,” Lucas said of Fisher at the panel. “She wore a dress through the whole thing, but she was the toughest one of the group. And that’s the key to Carrie being able to play that part. It was a hard part to play, and she pulled it off brilliantly. And it really shows the level of her talent. And at the same time, she was fun to be with.”

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5. Kathleen Kennedy, president of Lucasfilm, paid her respects to Fisher by saying, “She will be remembered forever, even by those who are not old enough yet to say the words, ‘May the force be with you.’”

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6. Kennedy then welcomed Billie Lourd, Fisher’s only daughter, to the stage.

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7. “My mom used to say she never knew where Princess Leia ended and Carrie Fisher began,” Lourd, wearing a dress that paid homage to her mother’s Leia costume, told the crowd. “She was imperfect in many ways, but her imperfections and willingness to speak about them are what made her more than perfect.”

Billie Lourd is here, dressed as Leia, paying tribute to her mom ❤️ #SWCO

— BuzzFeedEntmnt (@BuzzFeedEnt)

8. “She taught me three important things,” Lourd said. “One thing all mothers should teach their daughters.” And then, she recited Leia’s famous “help me, Obi-Wan Kenobi” monologue:

“My mom taught me three things,” Billie Lourd said and then recited the entire “help me Obi-Wan Kenobi” monologue ❤️

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9. “I learned by knowing her that the the most evolved person is seemingly a contradiction: They’re both the strongest and the most vulnerable person in the room. And that was her. That is Leia. Thank you for loving her and carrying on what she stands for. I am beyond grateful,” Lourd concluded.

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10. You can read the full transcript of Lourd’s touching tribute below:

My mom used to say she never knew where princess Leia ended and Carrie Fisher began. She went from being an unknown actress, the daughter of Debbie Reynolds and Eddie Fisher, to Princess Leia — a character synonymous with the idea of the ultimate strong woman. A soldier. A fighter. A beyond-capable, independent, sensible woman in control of her own destiny. A rebel who resisted the norm. She was imperfect in many ways, but her imperfections and willingness to speak about them are what made her more than perfect.

My mom, like Leia, was never afraid to speak her mind and say things that might have made most people uncomfortable – but not me, and not you. That is why she loved you, because you accepted and embraced all of her; the strong soldier of a woman she was, and also the vulnerable side of her, who often openly fought her own dark side, knowing early on that we all have a dark side of our own, whatever it may be. But she knew it wasn’t about the fight you were fighting, but how you fought it; the way you resisted.

No one could have known what this once-little dream of a movie would eventually become, what it would be to millions worldwide, mostly not her. But in our world, Star Wars ultimately became a religion, our family, and a way of life. And I wanted to be here with all of you because I know that many of you feel the same way. When she surrounded herself with fans at celebrations like this, she never felt more at home. She could spend hours talking to people and learning about their lives, and how Star Wars and Leia touched them in the same way it touched us. If left to her own devices, she would have always been the last person to leave at a convention center, having met and shared a Carrie moment with every single person there.

Nothing about her was a performance. She loved you, she loved these movies, she loved the people she got to make them with, and she loved this incredible character she got to create — this force called Leia.

She taught me three important things: one thing all mothers should teach their daughters: “Years ago, you served my father in the Clone Wars. Now he begs you to help him in his struggle against the Empire. I regret that I am unable to present my father’s request to you in person, but my ship has fallen under attack and I’m afraid my mission to bring you to Alderaan has failed. I have placed information vital to the survival of the Rebellion into the memory systems of this R2 unit. My father will know how to retrieve it. You must see this droid safely delivered to him on Alderaan. This is our most desperate hour. Help me, Obi-Wan Kenobi. You’re my only hope.”

Secondly, she taught me that if life isn’t funny, then it’s just true, and that is unacceptable.

And finally, I learned by knowing her that the most evolved person is seemingly a contradiction: They’re both the strongest and the most vulnerable person in the room. And that was her. That is Leia. Thank you for loving her and carrying on what she stands for. I am beyond grateful.

11. And in case you’re not crying enough already, here’s the official tribute released during the panel.

May the Force be with you. #SWCO #StarWars40th

— Star Wars (@starwars)

12. May the Force be with you forever, Princess Leia.

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“Dear White People” Has Truly Found Its Moment

Justin Simien with the cast of Netflix’s Dear White People at SXSW BuzzFeed’s photo studio William Callan for BuzzFeed News

It was the final day of shooting Netflix’s newest bingeworthy offering Dear White People, a 10-episode series created by Justin Simien, based on his film of the same name. Everyone felt understandably tired after the months-long shoot, but throughout the afternoon a sense of jubilation permeated the cast and crew’s final day together: mix of emotions echoing the last day of school; sadness and joy commingling as countless members of the crew bounced from one shot to the next. The set was almost vibrating with unspoken excitement. But instead of eagerly anticipating summer vacation, they were excited about the future, both for the show and for the country.

Because that final day of filming fell on Nov. 8 and most everyone was looking forward to Hillary Clinton’s victory — much of the crew was sporting I Voted! stickers. But as day gave way to night, Simien found himself counted among 65 million Americans who felt their hearts drop as reality washed over them: Donald Trump would become the 45th president of the United States.

“I was crestfallen. Everyone was — well, everyone who, in my opinion, had their eyes open to what was really happening,” Simien told BuzzFeed News. “It was a depressing day, a sad day for democracy.” But he had to stave off that looming grief, if only temporarily. “There was a moment I had to tell everybody, ‘Guys, I get it, the world is falling apart, but I just need an hour of your time so we can get out of here.’ It was hard and I was fucking angry and I was sad and I was all of those things, but, listen, the Band-Aid had to get ripped off. Black people already knew this shit about America, but I don’t think white people knew. I don’t think a lot of liberal, well-intended white people knew how bad things were in this country. … There’s nothing I can do but sit back and hopefully watch everyone wake the fuck up.”

On April 28, the world will lay eyes on Simien’s contribution when all 10 episodes of Dear White People drop on Netflix. Like his film, the series is set inside the predominantly white Winchester University and, initially, centers on the same handful of students who bristle against the college’s antiquated status quo. There’s radio host Sam White (Logan Browning takes over for Tessa Thompson), her sort of secret boyfriend Gabe (John Patrick Amedori takes over for Justin Dobies), big man on campus Troy Fairbanks (Brandon P. Bell reprises his role), status obsessed Colandrea “Coco” Conners (Antoinette Robertson takes over for Teyonah Parris), shy journalist Lionel Higgins (DeRon Horton takes over for Tyler James Williams), and campus crusader Reggie Green (Marque Richardson reprises his role).

But the series exponentially blows open the film’s worldview, bringing in a handful of additional characters, like Sam’s BFF Joelle Brooks (Ashley Blaine Featherson), sultry professor Neika Hobbs (Nia Long), and a whole host of other characters Simien looks forward to writing for in subsequent seasons.

Netflix’s Dear White People picks up directly after the events of the film — when a blackface party, thrown by white students and brought to an end by black students, has divided the campus. In the aftermath of that shocking night, the characters respond in a myriad of ways: Sam hits the airwaves, Reggie begins to mobilize the black student union, Lionel puts metaphorical pen to metaphorical paper, and Troy endeavors to reunify all the students. “In a lot of ways, my characters are going through a catharsis we are all kind of going through because they’re all, in some ways, reacting to the resistance,” Simien said. “Caring so deeply and passionately about something and having it not work out and blowing up in your face despite your best intentions, I needed to see a show about that. So I made one.”

But Simien didn’t want to devote too much time in the first episode to playing catch-up. “I’m a superhero nerd and I’m so sick of every time something gets rebooted having to watch the origin story again,” he said, letting loose his deep, inviting laugh. “I got it. He got bit by a spider. We’re good. As an audience member, I like dropping into a story world that feels like it existed before I got there and is much wider than I could get in a single viewing.”

“We can’t do this show and not ‘go there.’” 

The first five episodes are each dedicated to a different student’s experience in the aftermath of the party. Then the series offers up an even more incendiary incident, and the subsequent episodes chronicle the fallout from that. While maintaining the secrecy of this moment is of paramount importance to Simien, he granted that it would betray the truth if the series did not address the more lethal realities of being black in 2017.

“We can’t do this show and not ‘go there,’” he said, in reference to the sure-to-be “hot take’d” events of Episode 5. Simien paused for a moment to choose his words with intention and delivered them with the same vocal conviction: “We just can’t. The thing is, we’re in an era where people confuse bigotry and prejudice with racism. They’re different things, and the reason it’s important to call that out is because people who are oppressed by racism die. It’s fatal to be black. And not to be black under certain situations or when you’re of certain social classes; me, in this hoodie in the wrong part of this country, could get shot just for walking too quickly down the street or looking too long at the wrong person. That is the reality of our country. And to do a show that’s supposed to be about the black experience and not go there felt so irresponsible. … It’s just a part of life — unfortunately.”

The rise of white nationalism in Trump’s America is another fact of the world Dear White People will be released into — something Simien was keenly aware of before but learned anew in February when Netflix released a first look video. It was solely designed to announce the show’s premiere date but the backlash he experienced with the film’s title on a smaller scale in 2014 returned tenfold, thanks to Netflix’s cultural megaphone. A campaign to downvote the video on YouTube was enacted and many bragged they’d cancel their Netflix subscription to protest the show’s very existence.

But that familiar, faceless aggression didn’t sting today the same way it had in 2014. “A callus has formed,” he explained, echoing a lengthy Medium article he posted in the thick of the controversy. “What they’re saying isn’t about me. All of this talk of a white genocide and black supremacy, that’s their shit. There’s so much projection; all of the things they projected onto Obama…those are the things their politicians are doing! And it’s really sad. But you know what? I get it. It’s pain. I understand being confronted by something you can’t believe is possibly true. I get it. It breaks you down to the core of who you are. It’s part of the human condition. We all do it on different levels.”

It’s a realization that has, in part, stemmed from a concerted attempt to understand those who live outside his echo chamber; a limited worldview led so many in America, and under his employ, to be absolutely shattered by the results on election night. Throughout the interview, Simien repeatedly brings up cognitive dissonance — a theory that says people are pushed by internal forces to have all our beliefs sync up.” It’s a mentality he absolutely comprehends. “I understand being confronted by something you can’t believe is possibly true,” he said, citing a love of certain pop divas the world has long abandoned as a cheeky example.

Jeremy Tardy, Marque Richardson, Ashley Blaine Featherson, and Jemar Michael Adam Rose

“I have to write about these people and I have to respond to what they’re doing in an artful way, so that means I have to open myself up to how they got there,” he explained. “Even if I don’t want to, even if I don’t think that’s politically in my best interest, as an artist I gotta do it. I’ve gotta get it because it doesn’t make any sense to me, it doesn’t make any sense to me how threatened you could be to the core of your being that a black person is equal to you. But, for whatever reason, that’s your experience and I have to understand it because black people didn’t create racism. White people created racism and white people are the only people who can end racism. So if I’m going to be part of the change, I gotta get it. I gotta get the people who are against me — I have to understand them.”

In attempting to figure out those who seemingly stand against him, Simien has found an endless font of artistic inspiration. When trolls and bots set their sights on the show’s date announcement, Simien’s boyfriend explained to him how sophisticated they’d become since their last encounter, and his horror quickly turned to obsession. “The way modern-day racists, who call themselves the alt-right or white supremacists or whatever the term is, the way they operate … honestly took me aback. Then it was funny and now it’s fascinating,” he said. “And when I get fascinated with something, it goes in my work, so we’re gonna talk about that stuff.”

The irony, Simien believes, is that the very people complaining about a black man creating a show called Dear White People (he points to Stephen Colbert’s controversy-free Hey White People! series) are also the ones who would probably draw the most enjoyment from it. “[They] don’t feel scary to me because if you’re so afraid that you go and create hundreds of thousands of fake accounts to give the impression that your opinion is louder than it is, that’s sad,” he said plainly, his calm tone underlining how little credence he gives them. “No one thinks you’re all real people, so when you say you’re going to boycott Netflix, no one bats an eye because it’s not reflective in the numbers or the culture. None of these so-called-boycotts — be it Starbucks or Target or whatever — have worked out because … it’s a very vocal, I hate to use this word, but minority of people. It’s sad. It’s fucking sad. Because the thing is, I know what it’s like to actually be oppressed, I know what it’s like to actually be marginalized, and if that’s how you feel, watching this show is going to be the most comforting thing you can actually do.”

Like the film, the series looks at the intersection and interaction of race and class, but more important than those surface labels are the questions about our humanity that lie at the core of the series. “How do you figure out who you are when what you are is of paramount importance to the people in the society in which you come into?” Simien posed. “You’re a black woman. Forget who you are, that’s what you are. And that’s sort of the universal experience of being part of any marginalized community, frankly.” It’s one of many concepts that have been carried over from the film. The series, however, offers Simien the opportunity to explore new territory that may have once been touched upon in his original 200-plus-page screenplay, but was excised as the film made its way to the screen.

“I’m more emboldened than before.” 

Given how many personal experiences he wanted the show to encompass in the first season, it was essential to Simien that the creative forces behind the show be as diverse as the stories he hoped to share with the world. So he and executive producer and showrunner Yvette Lee Bowser tapped some of the most exciting voices working today. In addition to Simien, who wrote and directed three episodes, directors on the series include Moonlight’s Oscar winner Barry Jenkins, Tina Mabry (Queen Sugar), and Nisha Ganatra (who has directed everything from Transparent to Better Things) while scripts come from Njeri Brown (Black-ish), Jack Moore (Difficult People), and Nastaran Dibai (Living Single, 3rd Rock From the Sun).

“I felt like, what the fuck am I doing telling a story about black women without black women behind the camera — or just women, period,” he proclaimed, almost as if to put that good sense into the universe so others could heed it as well. He also went on to single out Bowser’s innumerable contributions. “Coco and Sam and Kelsey and Joelle, they’re big parts of this show, so for me to tell their stories without any female influence just makes no sense. It just felt wrong.”

That collaboration reinforced inspirations Simien had for the subsequent seasons he hopes Netflix orders: “Feminism is something I’m really interested to get into in future seasons,” he said. “There is a divide — specifically with the black experience, because being a black woman is being different than being a woman. It just is. I’m sorry, but it is. And anyone who tries to white-splain to a black woman that their issues are the same, you’re not doing it right.”

And that’s just the beginning of Simien’s plan for the massive world of Dear White People. “I didn’t get to half of the stuff I wanted to in the first season,” he said with a laugh. “In Season 1, we introduce the characters and have a fun, rousing start, but the other thing I think it’s time to get into is there’s a lot of secrets in this country that we keep from each other. We try to solve these really big tasks and get nowhere because a lot of it has to do with the fact that we’re not really admitting what the real, real issues are. I think as these characters are a little bit older, some of them have been exposed in ways over the course of the season that make them uncomfortable. I think it’s time to get into some of that deeper stuff — both in terms of what we’re dealing with as a country but also what we deal with in our personal lives.

“I just have more stories,” he continued with a palpable passion. “And I feel like it’s enough to fill a bunch of seasons. I hope we get more because I’m more emboldened than before.”












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Hollywood Remembers Charlie Murphy

1. Charlie Murphy, a veteran comedian, actor, screenwriter, and Chappelle’s Show writer and performer, has died at 57. Murphy had leukemia.

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Murphy is survived by three children and his brothers, Eddie Murphy and Vernon Lynch.

2. On Wednesday, Hollywood and the comedy community remembered him as an incredible storyteller and a friend.

3. Cedric the Entertainer

“Today we lost a #RealOne. @therealcharliemurphy was a bad man and funny af. He was honest and straight shooter, no BS kinda dude, awesome Father and family man. Had a gregarious laugh that would make you laugh, he stood on his own 2 feet as a man and as a comic even in the shadows of the brother of one of the greatest to have ever done it. Listening to Charlie tell stories of his life was truly one of my greatest past times. It’s why I love this pic. Touring with him these past few years on the #ComedyGetDown was indeed an honor. Though I am sadden by your passing. I pray for all of your loved ones his children and that his soul Rest In Peace. Love you brother”

4. George Lopez

“I’m heartbroken at the passing of our brother Charlie . In relationships you never want to leave anything unsaid , our conversations before shows and after shows we all told each other and Charlie how we felt ! Keep his family in your thoughts and in your prayers and keep a space for Charlie in you’re heart #Chingon I love you Charlie .#CHARLIEMURPHY 🏽”

5. Chris Rock

6. Eddie Griffin

Blessed to have worked w/ my Brother for years, my friend; a God fearing man that feared no man Irreplaceable One O… https://t.co/jvnHpBXxz8

— Eddie Griffin (@EddieGriffinCom)

7. DL Hughley

I love you my brother! R.I.P Charlie

— DL Hughley (@RealDLHughley)

“He was the best storyteller I’ve ever heard. He was a great friend. I did a lot of gigs with him, but after every gig, we would all go to his room just to watch him tell a story. I can’t pretend like I didn’t know he was sick, but I thought that the way he handled himself and the way he laughed, that he would be all right. Charlie Murphy has such an indomitable will that you believe what he told you rather than what your eyes told you. I am sad that he’s gone, but I’m also happy that I got a chance to know him. He was a great comic and a man’s man. … He rushed home to be with his family after every gig. He did comedy his way, and he died with gigs on the books. That’s all you can ever say. All right, I love you, Charlie.”

8. Neal Brennan

Charlie Murphy changed my life. One of the most original people I’ve ever met. Hilarious dude. Habitual Line Steppe… https://t.co/94S2Y0r2Hx

— Neal Brennan (@nealbrennan)

9. Kevin Hart

“Wow….This is crazy. All I can say is RIP. Thank you for not only being a friend but for believing in me when I was young in this comedy game. Charlie Murphy did the rewrite for the first movie that I ever did called “Paper Soldiers”….His stories were legendary & unbelievable & heartfelt. I’m lucky to have know you and I’m even luckier to be able to say that I was a friend. You will be missed man.”

10. Travon Free

Rest well Charlie Murphy. Thanks for one of the greatest comedy sketches in the history of time and space.

— Travon Free (@Travon)

11. Ice Cube

Damn, sorry to hear about my friend Charlie Murphy. He took a chance on a young director in The Player’s Club. Alwa… https://t.co/TJXspUm9K6

— Ice Cube (@icecube)

12. Russell Peters

“It is with true sadness that I say bye to my friend Charlie Murphy… We used to have the strangest and funniest conversations, he was an amazing human, a great father, and completely selfless, which is why he never once told anyone about his illness… Because he didn’t want us to worry… Rest In Peace Brother”

13. Spike Lee

“My Late Brother-The Very Funny Charlie Murphy. … Rest In Power.”

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So Remember That Sexist Message Tyrese Gave To Promiscuous Women? Yea, BET Deleted It.

1. Twitter was set ablaze on Monday afternoon when BET shared a portion of a video interview with Fast and Furious actor Tyrese giving a message to “promiscuous women who want to get chosen.”

In the video, Tyrese advises women who are “still single and holding out” not to be “sluts, skeezers, hoes, tramps, and over-aggressive promiscuous women” who allow men to wine and dine them and put “a lot of mileage down there.” This is because — according to Tyrese — when you are single and actually love yourself, you’re supposed to hold out from sex until God sends you what’s yours.

2. And black women did not hesitate to take Tyrese to task.

@BET @Tyrese I honestly wish he’d find something better to do with his time cause idgaf about his opinion 🤦🏽‍♀️

— #SeasoningSaltBae (@awkwardmyxdgirl)

@BET @Tyrese he lost me at “all cream outfit and short ass infinity scarf”

— THE POWERHOUSE ⚡️ (@southernjawn)

8. They also didn’t take kindly to BET allowing Tyrese to use their platform to share such a message…

imagine hating women enough to promote tyrese’s sexist screeds on your platform https://t.co/D8kXRlUf1p

— Hannah Giorgis (@ethiopienne)

9. …especially when BET celebrates black women as part of their brand.

If @BET really cared about celebrating and protecting all types of Black women, they would not have @Tyrese on their network shaming us.

— Ᏸecca🥀 (@MJStarLover)

10. Kimberly N. Foster, who founded the For Harriet blog community, wrote a lengthy thread about black spaces failing black women.

I WANT TO TALK ABOUT HOW BLACK SPACES ABDICATE THEIR RESPONSIBILITY TO BLACK WOMEN BY LIFTING UP DUMMIES LIKE TYRESE https://t.co/tAujH3aYgD

— Kimberly N. Foster (@KimberlyNFoster)

12. In a statement, a spokesperson told BuzzFeed News that “BET Networks does not endorse these specific comments.” A few hours later, BET deleted the tweet and the full interview on YouTube.

BuzzFeed News reached back out about BET’s decision to delete the footage, but the spokesperson has not responded.

13. This isn’t the first time Tyrese’s “relationship advice” has caused an upset. There was that time he told women that weaves and cosmetic surgery are the reason some of them are single.

The original Instagram post was later deleted, but this is the meme he used to deliver his message.

14. He’s also gone on television and warned women about “enticing” men with the clothing they wear.

.@DaRealAmberRose goes all in on a woman’s right to say ‘no.’ https://t.co/3A0ZnMJaN8

— Its Not You, Its Men (@NotYouItsMen)

“I’m just saying, the comfortability some people find in wanting to touch or grope you, it’s an energy that is sent out there that creates that type of response,” he told Amber Rose.

16. Tyrese did not respond to BuzzFeed News’ request for a comment.

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The First Footage Of “OITNB” Season 5 Picks Up Where Season 4 Left Off

1. Season 4 of Orange Is the New Black left fans of the show reeling when Daya was seen pointing a gun toward a correctional officer. Now, this brand-new clip from Season 5 picks up right where that tense moment ended.

2. Immediately we’re reminded that Daya is on the edge, and whether she shoots Officer Humphrey or not, she’s likely still facing more time.

“I could see her pulling the trigger,” Dascha Polanco, who plays Daya, told The Hollywood Reporter. “Knowing that it’s a guard on the floor, especially, she has resentment and that really flipped that switch.”

3. It’s a dilemma made even more difficult by her fellow inmates, who are pressing her to pull the trigger.

4. Meanwhile, Alex and Piper inadvertently come across the riot and run away as the prison descends into chaos.

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5. But what does Daya do ultimately? For now, we don’t know, however, we’ll definitely find when Season 5 comes back this June.

Jojo Whilden / Netflix

6. Additionally, Netflix released 8 new images from the upcoming season, like this one of Boo and Pennsatucky.

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8. Nichols and Morello scoping something or someone out.

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9. Suzanne walking Maureen through what looks like a hospital wing.

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10. Alison, Cindy, Taystee, and Janae all looking at a tablet.

Jojo Whilden / Netflix

12. Who knows what it all means, but in 58 days we’ll be able to catch up with the ladies of Litchfield.

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The Refreshing Honesty Of The “Girls” Friendship Breakup

Jessa (Jemima Kirke) and Hannah (Lena Dunham) shortly before their reconciliation. Mark Schafer / HBO

In the penultimate episode of Girls’ final season, Hannah (Lena Dunham) inserts herself into a conversation between three college students. “I’d like to remind the three of you not to sleep on this friendship, because I know it feels like it’s just gonna be, like, love and lust pushing you forward, but lust fades and friendship never does, if you nurture it,” she warns.

Hannah is wrong, of course: Friendships can fade, even when valiant attempts are made to, at best, strengthen them and, at worst, sustain them, a harsh reality that is readily apparent throughout the aptly titled “Goodbye Tour.” The episode sees Hannah reconnect with her core group of friends — Marnie (Allison Williams), Jessa (Jemima Kirke), and Shoshanna (Zosia Mamet) — only to discover that they’re as incompatible as ever. Even as they make amends and come together to dance the night away to the latest Banks single, it’s clear that this group is fractured beyond repair. That’s not a happy ending, but it’s not a bleak one either. It just is.

Shows like Sex and the City — which paved the way for Girls with its HBO-defining focus on female friendship and unapologetic sexuality — repeatedly underlined Hannah’s pronouncement that while love is fleeting, friendship is forever. No matter what was going on in her romantic life, Carrie (Sarah Jessica Parker) always had Miranda (Cynthia Nixon), Samantha (Kim Cattrall), and Charlotte (Kristin Davis) to fall back on. They outlasted the series, reappearing in two movies that reinforced their unshakable decades-long bond. It’s certainly admirable to portray friendship as a constant, unyielding force in an otherwise chaotic world, an essential contrast to the tenuousness of romance and sex — but that’s not necessarily realistic.

The bravest thing Girls has done in its final season is to pull the rug out from under the idea that friendship is somehow sacred when in fact it can be a lot closer to romantic love than Sex and the City once had us believe: It’s contextual, sometimes as much about circumstance than any sort of innate kinship. That’s especially true in your twenties, the decade in which young people grow into adulthood and often move past the friendships of convenience that dominated their college years. The episode before “Goodbye Tour” broke up Hannah and Adam (Adam Driver) for good and threw water on the TV concept of an “endgame” relationship. “Goodbye Tour” is a reminder that forever friendship is a similar fantasy, however comforting the notion might be.

At times, the episode is sharply cynical about friendship. Elijah (Andrew Rannells) consoles Hannah, who is having trouble connecting with Marnie and Shosh, by telling her, “You’ve made so many wonderful friendships here.” Immediately, they break into laughter. “That’s not a thing,” he continues.

Marnie (Allison Williams) and Hannah during their bathroom meeting. Mark Schafer / HBO

When Hannah does finally meet up with Marnie and Shoshanna — and Jessa, to whom she’s not speaking — Shosh offers a scathing indictment of the once tight bond among the four of them: “We can’t hang out together anymore, because we cannot be in the same room without one of us making it completely and entirely about ourselves.”

Shoshanna has been conspicuously absent for much of this season, but in “Goodbye Tour” that pays off. Hannah’s shock about Shoshanna’s engagement — she didn’t even know she had a boyfriend! — mirrors our own. Because Hannah is our most consistent entry point in the series, we’ve seen Shosh through her eyes. Her lack of screen time throughout the season reflects that unspoken estrangement. But with that space, Shoshanna gets clarity. She tells the others, “I have come to realize how exhausting and narcissistic and ultimately boring this whole dynamic is, and I finally feel brave enough to create some distance for myself.”

The confrontations are not all so biting. Hannah and Jessa do finally approach reconciliation — things haven’t been the same since Jessa started dating Adam, and Hannah mined her feelings of betrayal for a “Modern Love” column, and Jessa and Adam made a movie about his and Hannah’s relationship. Their tearful conversation is one of Girls’ most poignant moments, mainly because it’s refreshingly honest. While Hannah suggests, “We were all just doing our best,” Jessa counters, “Our best was awful.” These women can now inhabit the same space without screaming at each other, but they’re not going to be BFFs again. No matter how much they might cling to their connection, all four of these former friends bring out the worst in one another. The “worst best,” as Hannah terms it, isn’t something to settle for.

“Goodbye Tour” was the last we’ll see of Jessa and Shosh, who both got fitting (and bittersweet) conclusions to their arcs. Sunday’s series finale may provide some closure for Hannah and Marnie, but it likely won’t be a return to what they once had. And while there’s something deeply painful about that — the dissolution of friendship is its own special kind of heartbreak — it’s grounded and frank in a way that represents Girls at its best. Learning that everything fades eventually is one of the toughest lessons in growing up.



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15 Reminders That “The Leftovers” Is The Best Show You’re Not Watching

1. If you enjoyed Lost, you’ll probably enjoy The Leftovers.

The Leftovers sprung from the genius that is Damon Lindelof, and it carries a similarly captivating mystique.

3. Also, there’s A LOT of shirtless Justin Theroux.

And his ripped abs.

And therefore, his ripped abs.

4. The show is BOLD AF.

They’ve done things like dedicate entire episodes to one or two characters, and even spent the first 45+ minutes of the second season introducing entirely new characters.

5. And it’s not as ~depressing~ as you might think it is.

The show takes some serious sci-fi/fantasy turns, and it’s pretty cool.

6. The soundtrack is composed by Max Richter, and it is some of the most beautiful, perfect music you’ll ever hear. Ever.

7. The cast performances are so good that you may actually cry.

Literally every episode.

8. You’ll be introduced to the force that is Ann Dowd.

You will literally be captivated by her performance.

9. The show isn’t as straightforward as you might think.

There’s a lot to speculate about, from subtle details only attentive viewers pick up on to otherworldly happenings that provoke a lot of questions.

10. The show is ending on its own terms, which is usually a good thing.

They’ll be able to tell the ending of this story as they choose to, instead of leaving things on a cliffhanger or being stuck with an unintentional ending like when a series is abruptly canceled.

11. The show’s epic opening credits changed drastically from Season 1 to Season 2.

They’re vastly different and yet so, so perfect.

12. If you’re a reader, The Leftovers was originally a novel by Tom Perrotta.

St. Martin’s Press

The first season is an adaptation that covers the entire book, whereas the second and third seasons are all new story!

13. There’s a Justin Theroux jogging scene that drove people wild.

His gray sweatpants had people feeling some type of way.

14. The show just keeps getting better.

Season 1 is phenomenal, but Season 2 manages to improve into an absolute masterpiece.

15. The show’s final season doesn’t begin until Sunday, April 16, so you still have time to binge-watch it!

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